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If I Told...

For the past ten years I have spoken openly and publically about my emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse, something I only did in the past in the way of justifying my behavior. I would tell my wife and friends, “If what happened to me happened to me happened to you, you’d be drinking or acting this way also.”
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1in6 Thursday: Hope Wins

I was reminded recently of an important lesson about trauma recovery. The teacher was the son of a friend, a young man who spoke at his bar mitzvah about the competing motivations of fear and hope.
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1in6 Thursday: Partners in Healing

Both Trav and I can say that while child sex abuse will always color our shared life, it will never exclusively define either of us.
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1in6 Thursday: Standing in the Spotlight Without Shame

I already knew the story of the Boston Globe’s Spotlight team’s investigation of the Archdiocese of Boston’s cover-up of sexual abuse by scores of its priests. I knew most of the characters. I even caught a glimpse of the name of the priest who sexually abused me back in the mid-1960s. But what moved me most was two boys sitting near me in the theater of the Spotlight film recently.
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After St. George’s: Responding Differently, Together

The revelation this week about decades of unaddressed sexual abuse and assault at a New England school offers some important reminders about the power of community.
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1in6 Thursday: Doing It Alone

"What helped you the most in your healing?" a radio host asked me. "Two people listened when I told them," I said without hesitating. "They didn't condemn or belittle me."
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1in6 Thursday: Becoming a Village

We’ve heard it takes a village to raise a child. In a way, these men, by connecting with each other, are recreating the network of support and nurturance idealized in the image of that protective village, which for so many men was unavailable in their own childhoods
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1in6 Thursday: Hope for the Holidays

I realize now I’d been unknowingly recovering for years before I acknowledged to myself that the unwanted sexual interactions I’d had with my parish priest were abusive.
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1in6 Thursday: Be Kind

Be kind to yourself. Say only positive, loving thoughts to yourself.
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1in6 Thursday: We Are Survivors

There is nothing wrong with us; something wrong was done to us.
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