What Happened To You?

Have you ever wondered “Why did I do that?” or “Why can’t I just control my behavior?” Others may judge our reactions and think, “What’s wrong with that person?” When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.

What Happened to You? shifts the focus from “What is wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?“

This foundational book on trauma explains how adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and chronic stress physically shape the developing brain. The book offers a framework for resilience, healing, and connection, suggesting that while trauma changes us, it doesn’t have to define us, and that predictable relationships and rhythmic, patterned experiences are key to repair after development is disrupted.